It’s been a while since I’ve written a post. I set out to write a blog a week but when I can’t think of what to write about, or if I have so many topics and can’t decide on one, I choose not to write one at all. My family and I experienced a great loss, and different things have taken place that made it difficult to write anything. I’m learning to be patient with myself, to feel what I need to feel and to take the time that I need to take.

What’s on my heart to write about today is pace, grace & space. I’ve spoken about how my mama, and I used to clash because she liked to point out what I should and shouldn’t be doing, over and over again. She also liked to tell me what she would and wouldn’t do and allow. I would often think to myself, “but I’m not you”. What I can look back and observe is that “some” (and I DO mean SOME) of the same things she was lecturing me about, are the things I can’t bring myself to do anymore. It’s just some things, that God delivers us from, in his own timing.

I think of it as a newly potty-trained child lol. Once they’re potty-trained, they are potty-trained. What happens when a newly potty-trained child has an accident? They tend to cry and feel a sense of guilt. You also can’t force them to pee outside, in a pullup or in a pool for that matter and when they do, they are full of shame. That’s kind of what happens to us when we backslide, from something God delivered us from but just like a potty-trained child, when we feel guilt from the messes we’ve made, we should keep striving to learn from those messes and refrain from doing it again.

The Overly Opinionated

I’m noticing that one of my pet peeves are overly opinionated people. Ones that are always asking “well why didn’t you?… why did you?… you should have….”. I love people that let people do what they do. This isn’t just advice to go at your own pace, and to give yourself grace and space but to others as well. It’s okay to be concerned and to offer advice to others especially when they’ve asked but most importantly let people do what they do. Value your loved one’s pace and give them space and grace. Give God the space to deliver them from what he sees fit as he is doing and has done for you.

Disclaimer

While space, pace and grace are a real thing we mustn’t miss too many warning signs. Pay attention so that God doesn’t have to use something drastic to catch your attention. If he’s calling you to do something, or to refrain from doing something take heed. Continuation to come…

In what ways are you giving yourself space and grace? How well are you pacing yourself? How well are you doing the same for others around you?